Being a girl boss in a male-dominated world


girl boss rules“I’m a feminist. I’ve been a female for a long time now. It’d be stupid not to be on my own side.”  — Dr. Maya Angelou


One of the questions that I get asked pretty frequently is what it is like to be a woman in a male-dominated field. Business schools, and in particular, finance departments are not a place where you find a lot of women. If you are looking for female mentors and a bunch of girlfriends at work, you are probably going to be disappointed. That has never bothered me. Actually, I rarely look around and even notice that I am the only woman in the office.


I was raised by a strong single mother who taught me to be strong and independent as well. I always believed that I could do whatever I wanted to do. I enjoyed playing with G.I. Joe and Matchbox cards as much as I liked dolls. I was good at science, so I was encouraged to consider that as a career option. I went to programs for women in science and leadership for women. Even then, I didn’t really think that being a woman was anything that should hold me back or that I would not be accepted.


So, I went on to get my undergraduate degree in geophysics. I was the only girl in the major and so was often the only girl in class. I noticed, but I was “one of the guys”. I was just part of the group and again it never crossed my mind that it should not be that way. The same thing happened when I decided to join Army ROTC. As soon as people saw what I could do, being a girl did not matter.


Things are a little different these days. Yes, I sometimes encounter older men who don’t think I belong where I am. Still, I’m not the kind of feminist who thinks that she really needs a squad of women yelling about being treated fair and equal. I don’t automatically support another woman for any job because there is an unwritten “girl oath”. If I did that, wouldn’t I be guilty of the same thing that we claim the men are guilty of doing? My brand of feminism involves being the best you can be, working smarter than everyone else, and not standing for less than you deserve. I don’t want to be singled out and treated differently because I am a woman, a redhead, or any other classification. I want to be singled out because I am good at my job. Then, if that is not rewarded, I’ll find another place to work where it is. Women should support each other, but your support system does not have to be other women. Find people who see your worth and want to encourage your career development. When you carry yourself as an equal, others start to see you that way too. Now get out there and go take the world by storm, fellow girl boss.
top career mistakes college students make

Top Five Career Mistakes That College Students Make

top career mistakes college students make


It’s the start of a new semester at the university, which means graduation is just months away for many college seniors. The “real world” is just around the corner, and yet I see so few students really prepared for that moment. Now, I will admit to you that in many ways I was not all that different. At this time, I did not have a job lined up waiting for me after graduation. I didn’t know exactly where I was going or what I would be doing. I was, however, actively looking for work. I had a plan, and I had been putting in the time and taking opportunities throughout my college years that would eventually lead me in the right direction.


When I graduated from college I went home for a couple of weeks and then left to take a summer job as a lab assistant. It did not pay much money, and I lived in a large house with about 25 other college students. Still, I took the opportunity to work in my field. While I was there, I got a call with a job offer related to an application I submitted months earlier. I moved hundreds of miles away, and the rest is history. The point is that I was always working towards something and answered the door when opportunity knocked. Unfortunately, I don’t see that attitude in a lot of college students today. They seem to be making a lot of mistakes when it comes to their career search and prospects.


  1. Unrealistic salary expectations. Long before the first interview, you should have a good idea about what starting salaries in your field actually are. Unfortunately, a lot of college students seem to have inflated salary expectations. Talk to recent graduates and find out what kinds of jobs and salaries offered to them. Research average salaries here and understand how those numbers vary by location. For example, working in NYC, you will likely be at the high end while in Mississippi you could be at or below the bottom of the range.
  2. Unwillingness to relocate. My first job out of college took me from the Northeast to the foreign land of Mississippi. I had never stepped foot in the state before the day I moved there to start my career. It never occurred to me not to take the job because I would have to relocate. Life is an adventure, and in today’s economy, you cannot afford to limit your options to a small geographic region. Your dream job could be waiting across the country, so step outside your comfort zone and go for it!
  3. Feelings of entitlement. A college degree entitles you to nothing other than a piece of paper that you can hang in an expensive frame. Graduation is just the first hurdle and likely makes you no different from any of the hundreds of other applicants for a job. You are entitled to nothing. Consider yourself fortunate to get an interview and fortunate to get a chance to prove yourself to an employer. Be willing to work hard and do what is required even if you think you can handle more. Show that you can succeed in the small tasks, and bigger things will come your way. Plus, we all started at the bottom. Good colleagues are willing to pay their dues just like everyone else.
  4. Lack of professionalism. I’m not sure what makes students want to call me by my first name, call me Mrs. Goodwin, text emojis to me, or expect me to answer their emails at 2 am. I’m thinking it’s the same thing that causes them to show up to a professional event in shorts and a T-shirt or short skirt and 5-inch heels. I don’t think this behavior is unique to their interactions with me, and I worry about how this translates into an overall lack of professionalism that extends beyond the classroom.  Wear a suit and nice shoes, lose the backpack, and stop sending emails that use “hey” as the salutation.
  5. Not using the social network. Millennials are great at liking on Facebook, instantly Gramming, and snapping their Chat. Despite this social fluency, they tend to miss the mark when it comes to the actual value of developing their social network. Networking is crucial to career development and advancement. Take every opportunity you have as a student to meet people working in fields that interest you, get their business card, write them an email, and add them to your LinkedIn network. You never know what door that connection can open for you one day.

One Word Resolution.

new years resolutions


Happy New Year! A new year is a chance to reflect on the year behind you and think about your hopes for the year ahead of you. Most of us make resolutions and start the year afresh with plans to pay down debt, lost weight, exercise more, eat better, read more, or other such self-improvements. I used to make those types of resolutions too. Then, one year I realized that I was resolving to do the same things every year…just better. At that point those things don’t seem much like resolutions; they are really sticking to healthy behaviors. So, I changed my view of resolutions and started making a list of goals I wanted to accomplish over the next year. That worked pretty well for me. I had a list of priorities and could check off those accomplishments. This year I sat down to make my list of goals for 2016, a pattern quickly emerged. My checklist included a lot of things like “finish paper #1”, “finish paper #2”, “finish paper #3”, “finish book draft”, “finish closet redesign”, finish, finish, finish.


At that point, I realized that what I needed more than anything was a one-word resolution: FINISH. That is my biggest weakness and biggest struggle. Like many of you, I am busy. In addition to my job as a university professor, journal editor, and writer, I am an active mother of two busy children. My daughter is a dancer. Parents of serious dancers will know this can easily take over your entire life. On top of that, my son is an actor and plays select soccer. I am the assistant manager of his soccer team. I also make ballet costumes for my daughter’s ballet productions. One more thing: I homeschool both of my children. I do a lot. Unfortunately, I also don’t finish a lot (at least in a reasonable amount of time).


Here’s a blueprint for not finishing what you start. First, attempt an overwhelming amount of multitasking. Moms are the queens of multitasking. We couldn’t imagine life any other way. Yet, research coming out over the past year or two keeps telling us that multitasking is bad for our overall productivity. If you are like me, you laugh and roll your eyes wondering who can afford to do one task at a time. While laughing and rolling your eyes, you are probably running a load of laundry, helping with homework, and yelling at someone. Unfortunately, I think they might be right. I’m not suggesting that we stop multitasking altogether. I realize that finishing some big tasks means temporarily reducing the amount of tasks occupying my mind.


Second, you end up not finishing when you are not selfish with your time. Again, mothers have a terrible time with this. We give to our families and think about our own needs last. My time and energy are scattered in so many different directions, and I don’t do a very good job putting myself in the schedule. I’ve decided to change this over the next year by making and keeping appointments with myself.


If you are going to finish, you need a plan. What are your New Year’s resolutions? Could you summarize them in one word? Do you have a harder time starting or finishing projects?